THE THREE FIXATION = CORE IMAGE POINT
KEN ABERCROMBIE
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"Hello. It's so great to be here with you. My name's Ken Abercrombie, but you know that already, right? At least I expect you do; I'm pretty famous.
"Angel Stevie's asked me to speak to you today about the Enneagram type that's called the Three fixation. Well, that's something I'm extremely well acquainted with, and I'm very happy to teach you all about it. "You know what I love? I love it when life goes according to plan, don't you? When things turn out just how you'd envisioned they would. Then I can get on with the next world-changing thing that I want to achieve with my life. My personal motto: 'So many goals, so little time.' "If I'm having a bad day, though, don't talk to me. You really don't want to talk to me when things aren't working out . . . but I bounce back quickly. In fact, people rarely see me upset or angry; it's just not good for the image! "If you'd like to tell me what you need right now, I'll make myself available to you in any capacity; I'm very flexible and accommodating like that. In fact, one phone call and I can have a team here in minutes. We can get whatever it is you need done in no time. I'm really very good at giving people what they want. "Apparently I used to be quite the little performer when I was a kid. I don't remember it, but dad—may he rest in peace—used to tell stories about me singing and dancing for the whole family at Christmas when I was just two or three. These days I don't like to perform so much as succeed. I mean, why put on a song and dance if you aren't going to get recognition or remuneration for it, right? If I'm not certain I'm going to win something, I generally won't start it; losing is not an option. "I know, let me tell you about the business idea I had the other day. It came to me while we were doing this election campaign PR stunt, cleaning out some old codger's garage. Oh, my God, it was great; you should have been there. We made piles of things that needed to be thrown in the garbage, piles of things to sell at a garage sale, and we gave a few knick-knacks back to old Henry to keep. He was so grateful; we'll do it again next year, of course. But then I thought, Why not start a de-cluttering business? Doesn't that sound great? I mean, I'm sure it would take off . . . " |
"Let me tell you how fantastic I am right now."
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ALEX ABERCROMBIE
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"Hey there. My name's Alex Abercrombie. Yes, I'm Ken Abercrombie's son. Not that I really care much about that. He's famous, sure, and he might even be the president of America soon, but he's a bit of a dick, actually. When I came out to my family that I was gay when I was sixteen, he wanted me to suppress the fact so that the press wouldn't catch wind of it. Bugger that!! I'm not staying in the closet just so my dad can succeed at his manipulating power games.
"It really is so nice to be here with you today. Angel Stevie has asked me to speak to you about the Three fixation. Well, the main thing I've got to say about it is that it gives me a lot of energy to get things done. I might crash afterwards—in private, of course—but this is a production machine right here, let me tell you. "From the youngest age I always had this special way of sensing what other people needed, or what they wanted to see, like I was tuned in to what they were feeling somehow. It's weird, but what showed up in me was this way of performing, of putting on a show, that would make people smile and take notice. Really, when this Three fixation machine is running it's all about being seen and noticed, admired and loved. If I'm not being recognised and affirmed, I feel horrible, and then there's this urge to get out there and make something, do something, produce something, so people will see me as worthy. It's like all of my energy goes into being productive for others just so I'll be loved. Phew-ee!! It's exhausting. Though, again, I'd never let anyone else see that, of course. That wouldn't be loveable. "The thing that develops over time is this natural efficiency, multi-tasking for instance, so that I can get everything done without falling in a heap. It feels natural for me to quickly and efficiently do things where others are usually left behind. It's frustrating that others can't keep up sometimes, but that's not my problem. It's all about me and how good I can do things; me and all the things I've achieved; me, me, me. "This machine, the Three fixation, can really rub people up the wrong way, however. Some people just seem to have this ability to see through the facade, and recognise that all of the image is fake. All of my external success can also easily lead to envy and jealousy in others. In fact, I seem to polarise people: they either love me or they loathe me. The ones who loathe me, I just have to get rid of them from my life, and close the door on them like they never existed. If I dwell on them, or put energy into trying to have them like me, it's just too exhausting . . . " |
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"THE MAGICIAN"
"Now, when I don't indulge the need to be a people-pleaser; when I don't follow the incessant urge to be busy and productive all the time; when I put down my harsh self-judgments and personal expectations; when I let life unfold naturally without interfering; and when I stop trying to be everything for everyone, then my life feels so much more peaceful and pleasant; it's quiet.
"In fact, quite unexpectedly, life feels more fulfilling too. I can actually take the time to enjoy where I'm at and what I'm doing without rushing off to do the next thing as I always used to do in the past.
"When I stay centred and present, with a quiet mind and an open heart, I notice, surprisingly, that what I'm able to achieve is taking on a new depth of meaning that I wasn't aware existed before. I find I now truly care about the well-being of others, and I see other people more and more as not separate or different from myself. Could this be what compassion is? Most important of all, I find myself doing things for other people without needing anything in return. It feels quite good, actually."
"In fact, quite unexpectedly, life feels more fulfilling too. I can actually take the time to enjoy where I'm at and what I'm doing without rushing off to do the next thing as I always used to do in the past.
"When I stay centred and present, with a quiet mind and an open heart, I notice, surprisingly, that what I'm able to achieve is taking on a new depth of meaning that I wasn't aware existed before. I find I now truly care about the well-being of others, and I see other people more and more as not separate or different from myself. Could this be what compassion is? Most important of all, I find myself doing things for other people without needing anything in return. It feels quite good, actually."
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